When going through a break up, we are in that stage of dealing with the emotional pain that a break up often causes. There's this stage of "healing" that society has taught us into thinking that we need to endure... that we have to endure the pain of a break up. And only when enough time passes... will you be over your ex and be healed.
If you have ever been in that situation before - agonizing over a break up, separation, or even a divorce... then the silver lining in your cloud is the fact that you don't have to suffer through this pain and wait it out till "time" has healed the wounds. An interesting fact about break ups and separations, is that on average, an estimated 87% - 92% of all relationships that end, actually DO have real hope in being mended back together.
This is good news for those dealing with a break up and truly wanting to get your ex back. Furthermore, there is even useful tips on the subject regarding a "fast forward" technique that can get anyone through the toughest of emotional pain.
At the end of this article I have included some resources that provide some of the most most comprehensive methods in getting your ex back to date. Following the strategies from the information I've provided at the end of this article below, can help you follow a game plan to getting your ex back.
Now for some very simple and easy tips to getting your ex back.
The First Step in how to get your ex back consists of getting your head clear and try to gain some emotional stability first. It's important to look at your situation as if you were a friend giving advice to yourself. Look at your situation in the same manner an outsider would. They can see the situation and identify the reason for the break up in most cases. Including giving you the brutal truth of the matter and tell you what mistakes you may of made. Look at your situation in this regard and it will be easier to see what happened and what caused the break up.
Second Step to getting your ex back is to go along with your partners wishes. I know that this can sound alarming to you right now but it's really great advice I've learned in the "psychological judo" method to getting your ex back in a book by T.W. Jackson. You are going to very calmly agree with the break up.
Just for now...
This puts you in a good psychological position with your ex in making them think that you are "okay" which is important for these methods to fall into play with the strategies outlined.
Third Step is to avoid all contact for now. Simply no calling, texting, or emails. This almost never works to getting your ex back and in most situations it will actually push your ex farther away from you by portraying yourself as seeming needy, desperate, and clingy. These are things that are toxic for your situation if you truly wish to get your ex back.
I once had a young man explain this very situation to me as he described his "text mail terrorism" as it is referred to nowadays. Here is just a segment of what he had to say...
"...I can remember sending a dozen text messages in a single night pleading with an ex girlfriend of a long time to return my call. What I did not know was my ex had left her cell phone and went out that night to a friends house. All sorts of wild images developed in my brain and I instantly started to panic more and more sending out text after text the longer I did not hear back from her after we had JUST broken up. I was a disaster. And the next day?! She finds her cell phone with all those unanswered text messages and looked up at me like I was some kind of serial killer. Shocked and horrified was the look I remember as if to say with her eyes, "OMG! What is wrong with you?!" And I'll never forget that look! Out she walked out of my life with any chances I might of had completely ruined."
Fourth Step to getting your ex back is a method that is likened to a "magic trick." This stage is getting your ex to return your phone call. The simple and easy way of doing this, is by playing on two powerful human emotions and combining them together to create a psychological "magic trick" that will get your ex to return your message almost every time. By using curiosity and self-interest, you can create a message that will make your ex return your call almost immediately. You want this to be a phone call message left on their answering machine or even a call that they take in person, and not a text or email. This is important because the methods on how to get your ex to return a simple message you leave, will create this "magic" so that they will want to meet with you in person.
The Fifth Step to getting your ex back is to prepare yourself for the stage when you get to meet your ex in person and discuss your situations. This step is really about getting your ex to see a "new you" and find some changes in yourself that are going to entice and encourage their thoughts about you and reconsider the reasons for the initial break up.
Remember that time of agreeing with the break up and no contact we discussed earlier? This is the part you've been building up to and waiting for. During that time you have worked on you and the reasons for the break up to begin with. Hopefully you have managed at this point to determine what caused the break up, and which reasons were yours alone.
People who truly love, look forward to their "love" being returned and growing to a state of deep happiness. We crave to be loved and hope for our relationships to grow with meaningful deep passion. Love does not mean we are "blind" or ignoring the problems within our relationships. It simply means that for those that are willing to look beyond the issues and problems that may arise in any relationship, we simply do not allow our problems to rob us of our happiness.
Most couples can find that they are capable of working through any issue and problem with enough love for their partner. When that love starts to turn cold, and love becomes weak... it is not enough to work through the issues.
That could be when it's time for a bit of help getting back on track
There are very good resources for saving your marriage, stopping a break up, and getting your ex back. Including useful resources for your relationships and making them stronger.
Everything About Love can provide you with what you need for the fastest way to get your ex back, and much more!
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